I know a number of you have enjoyed my previous Hardsports blogs so I thought it was time to treat you to another……
“It’s Not Like The Movies”
It’s pretty much the one line I repeat to every new Hardsports sub/slave/fetishist/victim that comes to see me.
There’s a lot of misrepresentation out there in femdom porn, and I think scat porn in particular highlights the differences between movies and real life.
Why’s it so different? Why’s is it so sexy watching it on your screen, pounding away at your hard dick getting thoroughly aroused at the thought of being shit on. Or opening your mouth and swallowing down those chocolate nuggets.
Well firstly Poo smells. And we don’t yet have smellovision porn so you’re missing out on a key component. Shit smells of, well shit. Suddenly your brain kicks into gear and you think uh oh. Your dick goes down a bit.
Secondly in real time sessions people rarely gobble caviar down the way they do in some of the porn you’ve watched. They make it look easy right. Surely it can’t be that bad if they’re chomping away like it’s sweeties. Well shit actually tastes bad. Like shit funnily enough. It’s hard to eat, and it’s hard to swallow. Your whole body tries to resist and your mind has to over power that. Very few people gobble shit down the way they seem to in porn. Most people struggle.
At this stage usually your cock has done a complete runner and deflated into nothing. As you can imagine a very entertaining moment for me!
But I know I’m not exactly selling it right. You’re now thinking maybe it’s not for you.
Well once we’ve identified the reality we can look at why you really want to be a human toilet. Why you feel your purpose in life is to be under my ass, staring up in wonder watching and waiting for that moment your dreams become reality.
It’s the need to serve, to be objectified, to submit to my female superiority. To be degraded and put in your place. To revel in the taboo and take enjoyment from activities that many frown upon. Not to mention the intimacy. And that will all override the bad smell and taste. And even if it’s not right there and then in your session, that’s what will get your cock hard again looking back. Those are the thoughts that will fill your mind.
And that’s before we even consider my enjoyment at your consumption. My delight as you take away a small piece of me as you leave the dungeon and head out into the big wide world. Just imagine smiling to yourself as you sit on the train. Knowing that only you and I know your secret. How private and personal. Leaving a lasting connection between us and giving you wank fodder for many weeks and months to come. An unmissable life experience.
So no it’s not like the movies. Once you get over the initial realisation of that, you’ll understand that it’s far better than you could ever imagine.
So don’t delay. Book your session today and make your dreams and fantasies come true.
You can contact me via my website or email email@example.com
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So a few days ago now I joined the Lady Scarlett and Madam Cruella for a filming session.
I was very excited, but at the same time terrified as I had not served 2 beautiful goddesses before and I had never been professionally filmed for an online audience.
I instantly felt at ease when I entered as I could see how well LS and MC bounce of each other and really like to have fun and enjoy themselves.
I also felt nervous about being filmed with another slave in session with us, but Tink was a great guy and made me feel comfortable.
So the filming for me was an anal play session, and boy do these ladies know what they are doing!!
I was offered a quick warm up 1st before the filming began by MC which quickly turned into a fist warm up as I’m quite a slut or as MC called me “sloppy bucket cunt”
Once I was suitably opened to mistresses standards MC informed LS that the hole was ready, and so the fun/destruction began.
The 1st part was just a good stretching and some deep up to the elbow fisting.
LS and MC took turns with my hole and thoroughly enjoyed it evilly laughing throughout.
2nd part Lady Scarlett and Madam Cruella covered their beautiful feet with condoms and began to stretch out my hole ever wider.
It felt amazing as the Mistresses easily slipped their whole feet in and out of my slippery bum.
At one stage LS nearly popped the whole foot in past her heel I was just a little short.
Part 3 was all about the large toys LS tooled herself up with the massive “Dick Rambone” cock and MC had an enormous “Slink” toy
MC started of slipping in the Slink which seemed to never end I could feel it go through into my colon and just keep going.
Once I thought I had been thoroughly abused LS stepped forward with her monster cock and went straight in. A nice deep, long, no messing invasive ass fucking.
I honestly thought I was done the filming had finished but my beautiful and devilish Mistresses had not quite finished with me.
I was suitably placed back on all fours, bagged and poppered up.
The wrecking began, huge expanded fists started entering me deeper and harder than anything I’d taken before. It was brutal but I was in total heaven as they both stepped aside every now and then to take turns to see how much more I could handle, although eventually I had to beg for mercy.
Without any doubt the best experience of my life, getting to serve, please and get totally wrecked by 2 of the best Mistresses around. They both looked totally stunning.
I was offered some time out, a shower and a drink.
It’s so refreshing that these ladies are totally lifestyle and enjoy what they are doing. Nothing scripted or acted. We laughed throughout and had such a great day
I can’t thank Lady Scarlett and Madam Cruella enough.
(Me and the thing pictured above)
I always tend to get a lot of questions on this matter so to help you I thought I would put together this handy blog.
For a sub’s view I suggest reading the following by Scarlett’s flower.
So what happens in a Hardsports session? Well it’s much like any other session but it involves poo. No two sessions are the same and people have different levels as to what they can take. I get novices undertaking their first foray after many days and nights of fantasising, and hardened veterans who have seen and done it all when it comes to poo.
Before a session we will fully discuss which of the two you are and what ultimately your goal is. You might want to consume for the first time, having tried and failed many times before. You might want to just get dirty and enjoy the sensation of my waste on you. I don’t go into full descriptive detail before a deposit is paid unless you pay my consult fee though. Unfortunately many of you want to jerk off at the thought and then not book. But I understand if you are a novice then you are approaching the situation with some trepidation and need some reassurance.
Here are some handy FAQs:
Is it safe/healthy?
Well a lot of fetish activities are not safe. Breathplay, needle play etc. There’s a risk and it’s the same with HS. Especially if you’re consuming. If you consume from someone there is a chance, if they have something in terms of a virus etc, that it can be passed on. There is also a risk if there is blood in the feaces that it is passed to you which also means a chance of contracting anything they might have. You also need to make me aware of any allergies you have. If I’ve ingested something you are allergic to it could exacerbate this.
How do you prepare?
Well I have a normal healthy diet. So that doesn’t change. I don’t drink heavily the day before a HS session and won’t take any painkillers. If I’m feeling unwell then I will postpone the session. I don’t use laxatives or anything else to prompt me to go. Everything that happens in session is part of the natural process.
How does a sub prepare?
Well it’s probably best not to eat a large meal beforehand as there is a chance you might throw up or at least gag/retch.
Forget what you’ve seen in porn etc. It often doesn’t happen like that or if so those slaves have been training for years.
You could consider playing with or trying your own to see what it’s like. But I understand most people only have an interest in consuming the gift from a Mistress.
What if I throw up?
Well it’s really a mind over matter thing. It’s shit. It does taste disgusting but it depends how strong your need is to consume and please me. To date no one in a session has vomited. (Well not a pro session anyway.) Maybe that’s because I threaten that you’ll have to consume that too.
Can you force me?
I can. And sometimes this is necessary to get you over the mental hurdle of consuming poo. But I also have to ensure that I don’t push you to a point where it’s going to be psychological damaging. Same as any no limits, no safe word, consensual non consent type session. I have to use my best judgement as to where and when to draw the line. When you can be pushed and when you need to stop. I know I’ve taken many people further than they thought was possible. I’m not going to give you full details on my forcing methods until you book and pay a deposit.
Do I have to eat it?
Ultimately I love it when you do consume some as then you take away a piece of me following our session. But it’s not necessary. I like to smear it and play with it. Use it in strapon fucking, sniffing and smelling etc.
Do you store it?
Generally no. Everything is delivered fresh in session so you know it’s directly from me and not someone else. I sometimes get requests for more than one load and therefore storage is necessary. These will always be from me.
What’s your favourite way to deliver HS?
Any and every way. I love to sit above you and deliver directly into your mouth or on your body. But I do particularly enjoy mixing scat and food play.
Can I clean you after?
If you have done particularly well then you may be rewarded with that privilege.
Will I smell after?
Well you’ll have the opportunity to shower and brush your teeth. So there should be no danger on this score. You might just imagine you smell.
If you want to discuss a session in greater depth before committing please book a phone consult. These are offered at £20 for 10 minutes.
Its hard to describe just what an experience it is to visit Lady Scarlett. It feels almost futile, and I would say just pluck up the courage and go and see her, however thats a bit unfair so I will attempt to describe ho amazing a session with her is.
The first thing you will notice from Lady Scarlett is how kind she is when you first meet her (warning: enjoy this whilst you can, it will change.). As in her email exchanges she was polite and courteous, and very interested to know my kink history and experiences, especially as in my session I wanted to push boundaries in regards to kinks i had explored with other Mistresses. There was no rush to this, and though still obiously feeling due to what was to come, I felt much more at ease after being able to talk so candidly about any fetishes I had, with somebody who showed a genuine interest in me and my experiences with them. It also helps that Lady Scarlett has one of the most amazing voices, which really comes into its own once in session, she just has a way of speaking that instantly disarms you and makes you feel like the inferior that you are. You really do feel genuinely helpless when Lady Scarlett wants you to, and she ALWAYS pays attention to what you say, NEVER say anything and dont expect it to be used against you, im still suffering to this day with it, and despite knowing this am still getting myself in to trouble. (This is why her disarming voice, and charming personality are so dangerous!)
I wont go into the sessions we have shared specifically, but its safe to say they have all been intense from the get go. Lady Scarlett is skilled at mindgames, putting you in whatever position she wants you to be; whether that be calm and completely in her thrall, or nervous and on edge, wondering what she is going to do next and psychologically at her mercy. Mistress pushed me to do things I had worried about doing previously, and never achieved, yet under her tutelage I have pushed through and gone further with it than i thought I could, yet she is never happy with that. Already as soon as I broke through one self created limit, Mistress has her sights set on breaking through others. Indeed, I am now questioning even my hardest of limits, because I trust that she will know when I am at the stage that I can break through these, and I want to give them to her, I want to give every piece of me to her.
To end with then all i can say is this. If you want a genuinely wondeful, kind, thoughtful Mistress, who when its time to session will take over your mind, bend you to her will, take you to places you never thought you could go, and change you permanently for the better, you owe it to yourself to visit Lady Scarlett. Then you too can experience the feeling of walking out of her chambers, and into the sun, drunk on submission.
So as you will have seen on Twitter I will be visiting Ireland between 11th and 15th of June. My schedule is currently as follows:
11 + 12 June – Belfast
13 June – Kilkenny
14 + 15 June Dublin
While in Belfast I will mostly be sessioning in a private apartment and will undertake all of my usual session activities.
I will have a vast array of equipment for use such as:
Various sized dildos
CP implements – paddles, crops, canes
Poppers (additional fee required)
Electrics – estim box and various attachments
If you have any requests that may be a little specialised or out of the ordinary then please get these in quick. I also have access to a dungeon setting slightly outside of central Belfast if this is of interest.
Sessions are available for a minimum of one hour and overnight.
Dinner dates and cash point meets are also possible.
I have one Hardsports session left on 11 June.
Tributes are as stated on my website.
I will be in Kilkenny on 13 June and offering double sessions with the fabulous Irish Mistress Lucy.
Sessions will be held in her fully equipped dungeon.
Tribute starts at €250 for one hour. This is an unmissable opportunity.
I will be in Dublin on 14 and 15 June and offering sessions in both a domestic setting and in a fabulous fully equipped dungeon owned by Mistress Vixen.
Double domme sessions with us both are also available.
I have one Hardsports session left on 14th.
Session tributes start at €200 for one hour, €250 with Hardsports. Other session length tribute info can be requested.
Cash point meets and social meets will also be considered.
You will also not want to miss the multi Mistress party hosted by Mistress Vixen on 14th June in honour of her birthday. The party will take place 7-10. Join me, Mistress Vixen, Dublin Domme Mistress Scarlett and Mistress Sorrows for a whole heap of fun.
All sessions in all locations will require a deposit in advance.
Deferred gratification, not something I have ever been that adept at. Some can make their Christmas chocolate last until Easter looms. Mine never lasted to see the new year. But I have had to learn to be a little patient in spending time in the company of the very lovely Lady Scarlett.
When I first approached her about a session in early April that with all the hurdles I had in between we wouldn’t be able to actually get together until May. This seemed a drag, but turned out to have its own silver lining, as I spent much time in the interim dreaming sweet dreams about what might come to pass.
So, by the time today came around I had played just about every possible scenario round and round in my head a dozen times and was vibrating with anticipation. Our session was to be in the new but increasingly cult venue, the Peacock Parlour in North London. The instruction ‘to go through the blue gate and then call me’ had a pleasingly mysterious air to it. What’s behind the blue gate? Through a grey door then down a long corridor to the end, and through an open door, into the Parlour, where my Lady was waiting. I had stepped out of London into another place entirely.
The internet is a wonderful thing and allows us to know a little more of the person before the session. However, I have found that the person one meets for real is always a little different from the image one has projected on them. Lady Scarlett’s strong, sensual curvy body, dressed in black was as the pictures told me. But along with this came a smile that sparkled, and smile of delight and a sense of humour that showcased both wit and sadism.
As I said to her, it took me a long time to get over myself and accept the kinky man that I am but having made that journey I have thoroughly enjoyed exploring different aspects of my fetishes. What I was looking for with Lady Scarlett, and she had with great enthusiasm agreed to, was bringing two strands together.
Underpinning all of this was of course the joy of submission, placing myself in this woman’s strong and clever hands. I have had some lovely sensual sessions, and some equally thrilling CP/Disciplinary sessions. Today I wanted to bring both strands together, in a session that would start as disciplinary role play, moving into something more sensual, if exquisitely humiliating.
She is waiting for me in the dungeon space. The moment when weeks of fantasy and mental images becomes a reality. This is the trapeze artist moment of any first session between a sub and Domme. One can read a menu of delights, and as Claire Black once noted ‘get carried away with the pretty pictures.’ But this is the moment of truth, does this thing fly, or remain earth bound. There is a sweet spot, one wants one’s desires and dreams realised, but also one want spontinaity and surprise, and above all one wants it to flow, to wash one along on a beautiful wave. Oh, Lady Scarlett I place myself in your hands.
The moment she comes towards me, and speaks I know it’s going to be great. She exudes the natural confidence of somebody who knows who they are and knows that they are fabulous. Her voice, scolding pulls me into my fantasy space. In no time I am naked before her, as scolds and casts a sharply critical eye over me. I love verbal humiliation, especially in a nice domestic discipline setting and Lady Scarlett’s tongue was plenty sharp enough.
Bent over for a spanking, oh god I love to be spanked, between her body comes close, her warm breath on my cheek, scolding, mocking. My body, my tiny inadequate cock, my disgust desires all pulled apart. And then oh, yes, the thing I asked for but…. To have been as kinky as I am, and to have reached the age I have without experiencing arse play is probably some kind of achievement. I have experimented with figging (oh lordy, what an experience that was) but never been plugged up. Now bent over ‘hold your arse cheeks apart’ she orders. ‘My you do have a tight little arsehole.’ And then she slides it home. Wow, oh yes. ‘Don’t you dare let it come out!’ This warning hangs over the rest of our session.
I am bent over a spanking frame, my plugged arse on display and she spanks me, and derides what remains of my macho pride. And there is nowhere in the world I would rather be, she has brought me perfectly into her world. ‘Don’t you dare let it come out.’
And then the watershed, a wonderful pause to reflect in the corner, and we move from discipline to beautiful sensual submission. My bottom is spanked again, but now lying face down on the bed, I can feel her presence, then her body is on me, I can feel her lying on top of me, her voice like honey and spice. She feels so sensual and just so powerful. This isn’t a game or role play, this feels real, my emotions are real, rising in me. And then a wonderful gift and a reminder of who is in charge, and how she can enjoy my frailty. Her face close to mine, ‘With that tiny cock you are going to have to learn to use our hands and you tongue, such a pretty mouth, can you imagine it sucking cock?’ She continues, ‘If I told you to, would you do it for me?’ Her face so close to me, her warmth so near to me.
‘Have you been good enough to worship my bottom? Beg for it, beg more.’ And then my dreams are realised, she kneels and rolls down her fishnets and knickers to reveal a truly wonderful bottom and alter at which I could worship forever. I bury my face between her cheeks, my tongue reaching for that sweet hole. It is hard to escape cliché as a describe what I felt in that moment. And I could see, beautifully pierced the thing that I would so love to have kissed and sucked but will never be allowed to do, the arsehole is my place in life, that is the hole I get to serve.
‘Do you expect to come.’ ‘If you wish it.’ ‘You can come, but you have to cum in your sock, and I will laugh thinking about you going home with you sock covered in cum.’ Maybe this moment sums up the glory of this session, Lady Scarlett’s dominance, sensuality and evil humour all coming together in that moment.
Well I thought it was about time I did a blog post on my love of poo and hard-sports sessions. Let you get to know this London Hardsports Mistress a little better……
For many years, since being a teenager, I have been known as the poo Queen by family and friends. I am obsessed with toilet habits. I spend a fair amount of time in the loo each day and have no hang ups about where I have a poo. It’s always been confusing to me why people are embarrassed about their normal natural bodily functions. Perhaps I’m not embarrassed because I can go. A lot. Hence my nickname.
I have been know to poo up to 7 times a day. I kid you not. And no that’s not a stomach bug prompting that. That’s up to 7 normal poos. I generally go at least twice a day, if not more, and there’s definitely something wrong with me if I don’t go at all. The first thing I do when I stay somewhere is christen the toilet and yes I’m one of these awful people who will even go on a plane. Talking about poo also prompts me to go. A conversation on Twitter at 11pm the other night re HS sessions saw me visit the loo and as I sit writing this I feel the urge.
Anyway how do we move from being slightly poo obsessed to wanting to go on people and watch them eat it. Good question.
After several years of growth and development with my personal slave I told him one day I was going to poo on him. At the time it was mostly said for effect and I relished the reaction. But there’s something to be said for a Domme who just talks and doesn’t deliver. So one day on holiday I ordered him out of bed. Dragged him to the bathroom, tied him up and peed all over him. This was fairly standard, all bar the restraint. It soon became clear why I had tied him, tightly, as I told him I had another present. I squatted and released my bowels. One large soft stool landed on his chest. Then another which bounced off. I picked it up and slapped it on him and smeared it around. The smell permeated the air and I laughed. A lot. It felt dirty and filthy and liberating. I loved it. Not only did I shit on him, I was having so much fun I made him poo himself in the nappy I had made him wear overnight. And so the fun began.
I used him more and more and the natural progression was making him eat it. Again there’s something to be said for carrying out threats. One day I woke up in the morning and knew it was the day. I tied him tightly to a chair. Sat him up at the table and force fed him spoonful by spoonful. If you haven’t already you can read his account here on Fetlife: https://fetlife.com/users/2184990/posts/4553881
(Before you all scream consent violation and complain at how awful I was. He’s attained property status so has consented to whatever I decide to do to him. He knew one day he would be fed and we discussed he would need forcing.)
After these first experiences it was a total no brainer to offer hardsports/scat/kaviar as a pro session activity. I knew how much fun I would have in these types of sessions. Plus I’m not one for judgement given how warped my mind often is. If your kinks are legal and consenting I don’t mind. Who am I to judge if you want to eat scat and who are people to judge me if I want to feed you. I’m not the kink police and have never appreciated being told what I should and shouldn’t do. And it was the wisest decision ever as my love of poo has just grown.
I love the intimacy, knowing someone walks away with part of me inside them. I love the filth and utter debauchery. I love introducing a newbie into this world. Seeing them suffer and endure. Fighting physical and mental barriers. Overcoming to please me. I also thoroughly laugh when the realisation hits that it’s shit and it smells. And not of roses.
I love to try and be inventive with my hard sports sessions and use them to create long standing connections. But if you just want a fast food takeaway rather than gourmet feeding that’s also ok.
But yes it really is all shits and giggles and I will giggle and shit.
Anyway to mark my and your poo obsession I have some treats for you little poo piggies. I am now offering access to my daily poo diary. Via Kik or WhatsApp. Pictures, videos, musings etc. Access is £30 per week.
I’m also offering you distance piggies the opportunity to serve. I’ve developed a package whereby I will send you my delicious kaviar and then have a 20min Skype session where I can instruct you on the consumption.
If you are interested in either of these then please email me:
I have had the privilege to serve a number of Mistresses over the years, usually just 1 or sometimes 2 a year, and I have enjoyed just about all the sessions, but I have rarely returned to the same Mistress, mainly to give me different experiences.
Why, I ask myself, is it that I have had three sessions with the wonderful Lady Scarlett in the space of just eight weeks – and a fourth planned for next month?
Firstly, from our email exchanges I quickly realised that she was not a traditional Domme. To start with there was a clear softer side, apparent when I explained that following joint replacement surgery I was not very agile – some Dommes do not want to know – but Lady Scarlett simply said “no problem we work round it”.
It has meant that we have been able to concentrate on pleasures we both have. In each session, Lady Scarlett’s innovations have managed to take me further and further past my perceived limits.
What also distinguishes Lady Scarlett from many other Dommes is that she loves what she does, has a great, but evil, sense of humour, with a delicious but devilish smile and laughter, and it is all fun for her.
She wants you to have fun too, of course, but it is clear that she is very much in charge. She also clearly wants her clients to return, as, unlike any other Mistress I have known, Lady Scarlett encourages keeping in touch via email or text.
I would describe her as a smart, stylish, sophisticated, sexy, sensuous, seductive, savvy, sassy and sadistic siren!!
As she has said, herself, on Twitter, she has beauty, brains and an extremely warped, filthy and perverted mind. Just what a slave needs in his Mistress. She is, however, also a lovely Lady, just the sort of girl you would like to take home to meet mother (just don’t tell mother what she does for a living).
She does not clock watch either as our first session went on for maybe 15 minutes over and then we had a post session chat. I asked Lady Scarlett if she would allow me to take her to lunch after a future session. I was delighted that Lady Scarlett agreed, and we did so following our third session. Over a long and relaxed lunch I was able to confirm what I had already deduced, that Lady Scarlett is really nice and great company.
My search for my perfect Mistress is over. It is just a shame I did not discover Lady Scarlett sooner.
I like to write filth and often tease my slave with my musings. This was a recent one which I’ve adapted slightly for general consumption. Enjoy!
You’re kneeling. Hands tied tightly behind your back. I slap you hard on each cheek and tell you my cunt needs servicing. Forcing your head down between my legs. Telling you bury your tongue deep. Lick up all those those succulent sticky juices which are yours. You don’t need to breath just lick like your fucking life depends upon it.
All you can feel is me grinding your head into my soft wet lips. My hands hard on your head. Buried deep in your hair. The moans and groans spurring you on to do the best job. I tells you it feels amazing. Tell you to keep going. Your chin is dripping and my cunt juices are run down your chest. So juicy and sweet and warm. Your tiny clit is trying to get hard. Straining and bulging in the tight confines of your very restrictive chastity cage.
I moan and twitch. I tell you I need to cum and then be fucked as I toy with the key to your cage which is around my neck. It’s been a long long time since you were released. Since you were allowed to cum. You get excited at the prospect of fucking me.
You double your efforts. Swirling your tongue round my clit. Barely able to breathe. You love to pleasure and please your Mistress. Your Goddess and Owner. It’s your purpose. You make me cum hard. I writhe and shake uncontrollably. As the spasms subside I tell you again I need fucking. Your breath deepens and becomes more ragged at the enticing thought of being inside my soft warm wet pussy. Chin glistening with juices.
You lean back so I can unlock you. I stop you and shake my finger. Laughing. You look confused. “Oh no. I need a real fucking. And that pathetic, tiny clit just isn’t going to do the job.” I pull out a dildo gag and strap it on tight. I force your head down again and guide the dildo into my cunt. Moving your head back and forth in a rhythm. I tell you how good it feels and how stretched it makes me. How much bigger and better than your pathetic clitty. I can feel it deep inside. Banging my cervix. I laugh at the cunt juices pooling at the bottom of the gag and pull your head in deep. Nose buried again so you can barely breathe.
Thrusting your face in and out, rhythmically fucking me, while I mock your pathetic tiny clit that’s not getting anywhere near my cunt today. Or indeed anytime in the near future.
It’s not often that things annoy me but the male entitlement demonstrated by a number of you is somewhat aggravating. It might not have crossed your mind that your behaviour is frustrating to women or that there is anything wrong with it. But Twitter and Fetlife seems to be littered with vast numbers of you moaning and whining about what you think you’re owed or deserve and aren’t getting.
Me and my friends, both professional and lifestyle, are often bombarded with messages from you saying “I want xyz, I’ve dreamed about it all my life. I need. I deserve. I should have. I don’t want to pay for it. I shouldn’t have to pay for it. I don’t want to pay that much for it. I don’t think you should do abc. And if you do abc you can’t be a proper Domme etc.” At times it feels relentless and it can be wearing.
So here’s some valuable tips to stop you from rubbing us up the wrong way.
Tips when approaching professionals:
* Don’t think the session is solely about you. Even though you are paying I won’t accept a session if it isn’t something I will enjoy or get a kick from. I still expect to control the session and would love you to enjoy it because you’re happy to be serving me.
* Don’t waste my time. Don’t email, message or phone if you don’t intend to book.
* Don’t book and not turn up.
* Don’t ask me questions which indicate you haven’t read my website.
* Don’t ever try to negotiate with me over price.
* Don’t lie to me about experience or medical conditions.
* Don’t complain about, moan about or bad mouth other Mistresses.
* Do pay the deposit requested, do turn up on time, do be respectful and do enjoy yourself.
* Do be polite and respectful.
In return you will find I am very generous with my time and attention. But only when you have proven your commitment to serving me.
Tips when approaching a Mistress on a lifestyle basis.
* Don’t send me an essay outlining all your wants and needs.
* Conversely don’t send me a one liner begging me to do whatever I want with you.
* Don’t use the scattergun cut and paste approach and bombard every Mistress you come across with the same message.
* Do think about what you bring to the table. Explain what you can offer and why we might find you worthy or valuable to have in our stable. Gifts etc are nice but it’s not all about financial gain. Think about what else you can offer.
* Again be respectful and polite.
* Do appreciate us as individuals. We are not the stereotypes often portrayed in porn.
* Do put some effort in to be part of the community. Attend munches, clubs and events. Get out there and get known.
Above all don’t moan and be jealous of those who are in the position you want to be in. They’ve often worked hard for it and put in a lot of time, effort and money. There is no secret way. Once you’ve achieved your goal and place, continue to work hard for it. The effort doesn’t stop. Becoming a sub/slave isn’t the end point.
In short whether a client or someone more lifestyle take a step back and remember you are owed nothing from any Domme, or indeed woman, until you have proven yourself worthy of our time and attention.